Underlying vulnerabilities very likely made the new relationship possible.Highly revered marriage researcher John Gottman writes in his book …many clinicians…have been quick to point out that ‘affairs involve sex, but sex is usually not the purpose of the affair’…In fact, most clinicians who have written in this area report that affairs are usually about seeking friendship, support, understanding, and validation…they are about getting the acceptance that is missing in the marriage.” My work with thousands of couples in crisis indicates that this is exactly the case.
The military’s prohibition on adultery is stated in Article 134 of the Uniform Code of Military Justice which makes adultery a crime when legal criteria, known as “elements,” have all b een met.
Article 134 "explanations" identifies other factors for commanders including:(1) Nature of offense.
Adultery is clearly unacceptable conduct, and it reflects adversely on the service record of the military member.(2) Conduct prejudicial to good order and discipline or of a nature to bring discredit upon the armed forces.
(July 13, 2011) -- Almost every week at the Legal Assistance Divorce & Separation Briefing, we receive the question, "If I am legally separated and start dating, can I get in trouble in the military for adultery?
" Since the formal legal process of divorce can last months (or sometimes years), this question raises an important concern for anyone in uniform who is pending a divorce.