Somehow, I felt his presence, and sensed he was happy I had a supportive man like Adam in my life.And there have been some awkward moments when people assume Alexander and Amy are Adam's children - and Alexander turns round and says: 'My daddy's in heaven.' But if people ever thought badly of us, they didn't say so.In particular, avoid over-reminiscing about your old life; it may make your new acquaintance feel excluded. You may long to clone your lost love, but it’s unlikely you’ll ever meet an exact replica of the one you were with. After all, the person you met at age 25 changed over a lifetime, and so did you.Now you’re in a different stage, with a redrawn horizon.Earlier this month Barbara Want, the widow of broadcaster Nick Clarke, revealed in the Mail how she began a relationship with a new man just five months after the death of her husband from cancer, but admitted she struggled hugely with feelings of guilt as a result.Golfer Darren Clarke found happiness with a new partner just four months after the death of his wife Heather from breast cancer, while Nigella Lawson moved in with Charles Saatchi nine months after losing her husband John Diamond.
‘A nice Christian man is keen to start a relationship with me, and I like him too,’ said the email.Lost in her grief, she found herself drawn to the one man who could comfort her.It is, she says, exactly what Jon would have wanted.And Michelle, a 41-year-old trainee nurse, believes that the bereaved deserve the right to happiness. But that doesn't rule out a new love.' Michelle and Jon, a tall, bespectacled man who worked in the construction industry, met on a night out in their home town of Hull in October 2003.'Of course, I understand why people might be scandalised,' she says quietly. I didn't for a second imagine falling in love again - ever. 'At first Jon's friend, Adrian, was just a link to Jon. But when your emotions are so raw, inhibitions fall away. Divorced and with a young son, Michelle was wary of embarking on a new relationship. He would rush to open car doors and insisted on paying when we went out for dates.If a loved one is ill for a long time, we sometimes do much of our grieving before they die, and may be ready to move on more quickly.